Popular performers both reflect and shape social attitudes.

The white rapper Eminem won a Grammy Award while I was writing this book. At the time of his award, one of his newest popular songs was “Kim,” the name of Eminem’s wife. The song begins with the singer putting his baby daughter to bed and then preparing to murder his wife for being with another man. He tells his wife, “If you move I’ll beat the shit out of you,” and informs her that he has already murdered their four-year-old son. He then tells his wife he is going to drive away with her in the car, leaving the baby at home alone, and then will bring her home dead in the trunk. Kim’s voice (as performed by Eminem) is audible off and on throughout the song, screaming with terror. At times she pleads with him not to hurt her. He describes to her how he is going to make it look as if she is the one who killed their son and that he killed her in self-defense, so that he’ll get away with it. Kim screams for help, then is audibly choked to death, as Eminem screams, “Bleed, bitch, bleed! Bleed!” The murder is followed by the sound of a body being dragged across dry leaves, thrown into the trunk of a car, and closed in.

Even more horrible than Eminem’s decision to record this song glorifying the murder of a woman and child is the fact that it did not stop him from receiving a Grammy. What is a teen boy or a young man to conclude about our culture from this award? I believe I can safely say that a singer who openly promoted the killing of Jews, or blacks, or people in wheelchairs would be considered ineligible for a Grammy. But not so, unfortunately, for encouraging the brutal and premeditated murder of one’s wife and child, complete with a plan for how to escape consequences for it.

And, unfortunately, Eminem has plenty of company. The extremely popular Guns ’n’ Roses recorded a song that goes: “I used to love her / But I had to kill her / I had to put her six feet under / And I can still hear her complain.” The singer (Axl Rose) goes on to sing that he knew he would miss her so he buried her in the backyard. This song supports a common attitude among physical abusers that women’s complaints are what provoke men to violence. Another outstanding example is the comedian Andrew Dice Clay, whose repertoire of “jokes” about the beating and sexual assault of females has filled performance halls across the country. Fans of these kinds of performers have been known to state defensively, “Come on, it’s just humor.” But humor is actually one of the powerful ways a culture passes on its values. If a man is already inclined toward abuse because of his earlier training or experience, he can find validation in such erformances and distance himself even further from empathy for his partners. In one abuse case that I was involved in, the man used to play the above Guns ’n’ Roses song on the stereo repeatedly and tell his wife that this was what was going to happen to her, laughing about it. But in the context of verbal assault and physical fear that he created, what was a joke to him was a blood-curdling threat to his partner.

— Why does he do that - Lundy Bancroft (via scherbensalat)

3ch0-lokshun:

speakintongueandcheek:

shisnojon:

heliolisk:

any cookie is bite sized if you try hard enough

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ANY COOKIE IS BITE SIZED IF YOU TRY HARD ENOUGH

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NOT ALL COOKIES

drxcos:

i hate when people r like “do you like them? oooh you’re blushing you do!!!” like, no you cold corndog im fucking blushing bc you’re embarrassing me and making me uncomfortable

daggerpen:

redundantthinking:

I hope Cassandra gets arrested one day and when they bail her out, her only reaction smug laughter

also she gave the middle finger in the mud shot

and no one can figure out if she’s trying to keep up the ‘Cass Wayne’ persona or if she’s taking bad bad tips for TV  

Bruce is convinced that it’s just the Cass Wayne persona and encourages her but is secretly a little -_- because not his little girl

Babs is disappointed but also a little amused

Dick and Tim are just facepalming forever

Steph and Jason think it’s the funniest fucking thing ever and probably dared her to do whatever got her there in the first place

Damian needs to be carefully discouraged from trying to outdo her

justplainsomething:

ink-and-roses:

Headcanon: One time while they were dating, Dick literally stood under Babs’ window at 2 in the morning with a boombox until her dad chased him away with a bat.

And he chose this song, but he wasn’t sure why…

yellowcape:

grayson-army:

Batman and Robin #34
Dick expresses his love and support for Bruce.

Dickie…

yellowcape:

grayson-army:

Batman and Robin #34

Dick expresses his love and support for Bruce.

Dickie…

battychica:

Batman and The Reds

runmonsterun:

Haly’s Circus